{"id":4022,"date":"2021-07-29T21:44:03","date_gmt":"2021-07-29T21:44:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.corinaimbisi.com\/?p=1242"},"modified":"2023-11-09T14:50:26","modified_gmt":"2023-11-09T14:50:26","slug":"te-ai-indragostit-de-un-barbat-care-te-face-sa-suferi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.corinaimbisi.com\/en\/te-ai-indragostit-de-un-barbat-care-te-face-sa-suferi\/","title":{"rendered":"Te-ai \u00eendr\u0103gostit de un b\u0103rbat care te face s\u0103 suferi? Uite ce e de f\u0103cut."},"content":{"rendered":"<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"4022\" class=\"elementor elementor-4022\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-50be7754 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default wpr-particle-no wpr-jarallax-no wpr-parallax-no wpr-sticky-section-no wpr-column-slider-no wpr-equal-height-no\" data-id=\"50be7754\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-155f22a5\" data-id=\"155f22a5\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-17c6a092 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"17c6a092\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<strong>De cele mai multe ori, ajungi s\u0103 te \u00eendr\u0103goste\u0219ti \u0219i chiar s\u0103 te c\u0103s\u0103tore\u0219ti cu un b\u0103rbat care te face s\u0103 suferi, adic\u0103 cu un b\u0103rbat nevindecat emo\u021bional. \u00cen acest articol, \u00ee\u021bi ar\u0103t cum s\u0103 te fere\u0219ti de un b\u0103rbat l\u00e2ng\u0103 care sim\u021bi c\u0103 iubirea e grea.<\/strong>\n\n<strong>D\u0103 play la video \u0219i afl\u0103 ce este de f\u0103cut c\u00e2nd so\u021bul t\u0103u este un astfel de b\u0103rbat.<\/strong>\n\n\u00cenc\u0103 din perioada \u00eent\u00e2lnirilor, ne intersect\u0103m cu b\u0103rba\u021bi care abia au ie\u0219it din rela\u021bii cu inimile fr\u00e2nte, care au fost tr\u0103da\u021bi, care duc cu ei un bagaj emo\u021bional de suferin\u021b\u0103, gelozie \u0219i ne\u00eencredere. Unii sunt \u00een depresie, al\u021bii pur \u0219i simplu au probleme emo\u021bionale nerezolvate. Eu \u00eei numesc b\u0103rba\u021bi <strong>nevindeca\u021bi emo\u021bional.<\/strong>\n<h4>Cine este b\u0103rbatul care te face s\u0103 suferi \u0219i cum \u00eel depistezi?<\/h4><br>\n\nAm cliente la coaching care \u00ee\u0219i petrec ani de zile \u00eent\u0103lnindu-se \u0219i av\u00e2nd rela\u021bii cu b\u0103rba\u021bi cu astfel de probleme.\nDac\u0103 \u0219i \u021bie \u021bi s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat s\u0103 te \u00eendr\u0103goste\u0219ti de cineva abia ie\u0219it dintr-o rela\u021bie zbuciumat\u0103&#8230;\n\nDac\u0103 \u0219i tu ai zis \u201d\u0219i ce dac\u0103 are probleme, o s\u0103 \u00eel ajut eu!\u201d&#8230;\n\nDac\u0103 \u0219i tu ai trecut de la un b\u0103rbat gelos, la altul depresiv, apoi la altul indisponibil afectiv&#8230;\n\nEste un tipar pe care, probabil, nu \u00eel recuno\u0219ti de la \u00eenceput, dar exist\u0103 \u0219i te va face s\u0103 alegi mereu acela\u0219i tip de parteneri, p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd vei avea curajul s\u0103 prive\u0219ti unde trebuie: \u00een interiorul t\u0103u.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2db0e6a elementor-widget elementor-widget-eael-testimonial\" data-id=\"2db0e6a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"eael-testimonial.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\n\t<div id=\"eael-testimonial-2db0e6a\" class=\"eael-testimonial-item clearfix  content-top-icon-title-inline\">\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"eael-testimonial-content eael-testimonial-inline-bio\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"bio-text\"><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t<div class=\"eael-testimonial-content\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"eael-testimonial-text\">Interiorul t\u0103u nevindecat va atrage \u00eentotdeauna parteneri nevindeca\u021bi.<\/div>\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t<span class=\"eael-testimonial-quote\"><\/span>\n\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-537acfd elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"537acfd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h4>Este foarte u\u0219or s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi dai seama care sunt ace\u0219ti b\u0103rba\u021bi, \u00eenc\u0103 de la primele \u00eent\u00e2lniri.<\/h4>\nProblema este c\u0103, de bun\u0103 voie \u0219i nesilit\u0103 de nimeni, alegi s\u0103 treci cu vederea toate semnalele de alarm\u0103, pentru c\u0103 interiorul t\u0103u deja a stabilit o conexiune cu cineva care s\u0103 \u00eel oglindeasc\u0103. \u0218i nimic altceva nu mai conteaz\u0103.\n<ul>\n \t<li>De la primele \u00eent\u00e2lniri, poveste\u0219te despre fosta, despre rela\u021bia traumatizant\u0103 care tocmai s-a \u00eencheiat \u0219i cat de mult \u00ee\u0219i dore\u0219te s\u0103 g\u0103seasc\u0103 o femeie bun\u0103.<\/li>\n \t<li>Te compar\u0103 pe tine \u0219i pe celelalte femei cu fosta.<\/li>\n \t<li>Te compar\u0103 cu mama lui.<\/li>\n \t<li>Este gelos.<\/li>\n \t<li>Nu are \u00eencredere \u00een tine, nici \u00een prieteni, fiecare este suspect.<\/li>\n \t<li>Nu este atent la nevoile tale emo\u021bionale \u0219i nu este interesat s\u0103 \u021bi le \u00eemplineasc\u0103.<\/li>\n \t<li>Este depresiv \u0219i aduce \u201ddepresia\u201d ca scuz\u0103 pentru indisponibilitatea lui emo\u021bional\u0103. Depresia survine mereu c\u00e2nd este cu tine, dar niciodat\u0103 c\u00e2nd iese cu prietenii.<\/li>\n \t<li>Nu poate men\u021bine un job stabil pe termen lung (tr\u0103ie\u0219te din afaceri mici \u0219i dubioase.<\/li>\n \t<li>De c\u00e2te ori vrei s\u0103 exprimi ce sim\u021bi, \u021bi-o \u00eentoarce cu ce simte el, c\u00e2t de afectat este \u0219i c\u00e2te probleme are.<\/li>\n \t<li>Copil\u0103re\u0219te: are preocup\u0103ri \u0219i anturaj mai degrab\u0103 potrivite pentru adolescen\u021b\u0103, nu pentru un om matur.<\/li>\n \t<li>Altcineva este de vin\u0103 pentru nereu\u0219itele lui: fostele false, maic\u0103-sa posesiv\u0103, \u0219eful exigent, colegii tr\u0103d\u0103tori, tu c\u0103 nu \u00eel \u00een\u021belegi.<\/li>\n \t<li>\u00cen preajma lui, nu sim\u021bi bucuria iubirii, ci mai degrab\u0103 sim\u021bi c\u0103 iubirea este a naibii de grea.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-75e45e4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"75e45e4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/www.youtube.com\\\/watch?v=_RKXhjE89Sg&amp;t=223s&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9bfc7cf elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"9bfc7cf\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h4>Ar trebui sau nu s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eent\u00e2lnesc cu b\u0103rba\u021bi nevindeca\u021bi emo\u021bional?<\/h4>\n\u021aine minte un lucru: un b\u0103rbat \u00ee\u021bi va oferi doar ce e\u0219ti preg\u0103tit\u0103 s\u0103 accep\u021bi.\n\nDac\u0103 de la bun \u00eenceput, \u00eei ar\u0103\u021bi c\u0103 e\u0219ti dispus\u0103 s\u0103 treci cu vederea \u0219i c\u0103 tolerezi, c\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi sacrifici stima de sine, el se va comporta pe m\u0103sura a ceea ce \u00eei transmi\u021bi.\n\nTeama de a r\u0103m\u00e2ne singur\u0103, teama de conflict, teama de a fi p\u0103r\u0103sit\u0103 NU ar trebui s\u0103 \u00eencline balan\u021ba \u00eenspre orice b\u0103rbat \u00ee\u021bi d\u0103 aten\u021bie. Tu MERI\u021aI aten\u021bie oricum. Faptul c\u0103 cineva se poart\u0103 frumos \u0219i este atent cu tine \u2013 nu c\u00e2\u0219tig\u0103 puncte, ci face ce se cuvine s\u0103 fac\u0103 pentru o femeie ca tine.\n<h4>Care este cea mai frecvent\u0103 problem\u0103 a unui b\u0103rbat care te face s\u0103 suferi?<\/h4>\n<strong>Ne\u00eencrederea. \u00cen oameni, \u00een femei, \u00een el \u00eensu\u0219i.<\/strong>\n\nB\u0103rbatul, care \u00ee\u021bi poveste\u0219te prin c\u00e2te a trecut el \u0219i c\u00e2t de mult i s-a gre\u0219it, \u00ee\u021bi va spune la un moment dat \u0219i c\u0103 nu este preg\u0103tit pentru angajament.\n\nDac\u0103 intri pe acest teren \u0219i vrei s\u0103 continui cu un b\u0103rbat nevindecat, ai dou\u0103 variante:\n\n-ori el va sim\u021bi nevoia permanent de reasigur\u0103ri \u0219i consolid\u0103ri din partea ta;\n\n-ori tu vei sim\u021bi nevoia permanent s\u0103 \u00eei oferi reasigur\u0103ri \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eei faci pe plac.\n\nOri ambele. \u00cen cel mai r\u0103u scenariu.\n\n\u00cen fiecare zi, primesc \u00eentreb\u0103ri de la femei din toat\u0103 \u021bara, despre \u201dce s\u0103 fac s\u0103 \u00eel fac s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 c\u0103 eu \u00eel iubesc \u0219i c\u0103 \u00eei voi fi al\u0103turi no matter what \u0219i c\u0103 eu nu \u00eel voi r\u0103ni niciodat\u0103?!\u201d\n\nCrezi c\u0103 aceste doamne \u00eemi adreseaz\u0103 aceste \u00eentreb\u0103ri din simpl\u0103 curiozitate? Sau c\u0103 au prea mult timp liber? Aceste femei tr\u0103iesc drama alegerii unui b\u0103rbat nevindecat, iar acum \u00eencearc\u0103 din r\u0103sputeri s\u0103 salveze ceva ce nu a fost prea solid niciodat\u0103.\n<h4>De ce sunt atras\u0103 de b\u0103rba\u021bi nevindeca\u021bi emo\u021bional?<\/h4>\n<strong>Prime\u0219ti ce crezi c\u0103 meri\u021bi. De fapt, prime\u0219ti ce a\u0219tep\u021bi s\u0103 prime\u0219ti.<\/strong>\n\nNu este nevoie s\u0103 ajungi la psiholog ca s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi c\u0103 r\u0103nile tale interioare\n<ul>\n \t<li>vor alege persoana care s\u0103 le oglindeasc\u0103<\/li>\n \t<li>nu te vor l\u0103sa s\u0103 te sim\u021bi atras\u0103 de un b\u0103rbat bun \u0219i s\u0103n\u0103tos emo\u021bional.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\nDac\u0103 tu ai convingerea c\u0103 a-\u021bi deschide inima \u0219i a fi vulnerabil\u0103 \u00een fa\u021ba unui b\u0103rbat \u00ee\u021bi poate aduce durere, atunci fii sigur\u0103 c\u0103 asta vei primi de la partener.\n\n<strong>Hai s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi spun ceva.<\/strong>\n\n\u00cen primul r\u00e2nd, nu ai cum s\u0103 reasiguri la nesf\u00e2r\u0219it pe cineva care are probleme de \u00eencredere. Te vei epuiza \u0219i slei de puteri \u0219i nu te vei bucura de iubire, a\u0219a cum ar trebui s\u0103 fie.\n\n\u00cen al doilea r\u00e2nd, nu poti garanta nim\u0103nui c\u0103 nu \u00eel vei r\u0103ni. Nu e\u0219ti maica Tereza. \u0218i nici nu \u00ee\u021bi propui s\u0103 fii salvatoarea nim\u0103nui.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a90666c elementor-widget elementor-widget-eael-testimonial\" data-id=\"a90666c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"eael-testimonial.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\n\t<div id=\"eael-testimonial-a90666c\" class=\"eael-testimonial-item clearfix  content-top-icon-title-inline\">\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"eael-testimonial-content eael-testimonial-inline-bio\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"bio-text\"><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t<div class=\"eael-testimonial-content\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"eael-testimonial-text\">Femeia salvatoare din tine este cea care alege \u0219i este atras\u0103 de b\u0103rba\u021bi nevindeca\u021bi, b\u0103rba\u021bi care te fac s\u0103 suferi ulterior.<\/div>\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t<span class=\"eael-testimonial-quote\"><\/span>\n\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a01b5c8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a01b5c8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Este limpede de ce. Este acea parte din tine care retr\u0103ie\u0219te un eveniment sau o traum\u0103 din trecut, \u00een mod repetat, \u0219i nu simte c\u0103 iube\u0219te dac\u0103 nu salveaz\u0103 \u0219i \u00eengrije\u0219te pe cineva. Chiar \u0219i eu am trecut prin asta, acum mul\u021bi ani. Am stat ani de zile cu cineva, confund\u00e2nd iubirea cu compasiunea. Nu l-a ajutat prea mult pe el \u0219i nu m-a ajutat deloc pe mine!<br \/><br \/><\/p><h4>Intr\u00e2nd \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie cu un astfel de b\u0103rbat, fii gata s\u0103:<\/h4><p>-nu mai ai via\u021b\u0103 personal\u0103, obiceiuri, prieteni \u0219i pasiuni proprii.<\/p><p>-\u00ee\u021bi tai de pe list\u0103 prieteni \u0219i cuno\u0219tinte, ca nu cumva el s\u0103 mai fie gelos \u0219i s\u0103 se simt\u0103 nesigur.<\/p><p>-mergi ca pe ou\u0103, \u00een ceea ce faci sau vorbe\u0219ti, de teama cum ar putea reac\u021biona.<\/p><p>-faci orice ca el s\u0103 se simt\u0103 \u00een siguran\u021b\u0103 cu tine, dar tu nu te sim\u021bi \u00een siguran\u021b\u0103 cu el.<\/p><p><strong>Tu nu ai cum s\u0103 salvezi un b\u0103rbat<\/strong>. Nu te-ai n\u0103scut pentru acest lucru \u0219i nici nu este datoria ta.<\/p><p>Singura persoana care \u00eel poate salva este el \u00eensu\u0219i, atunci c\u00e2nd se va s\u0103tura de autocomp\u0103timire \u0219i suferin\u021b\u0103.<\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><h4>Coaching tip<\/h4><p>Dac\u0103 \u0219i via\u021ba ta amoroas\u0103 arat\u0103 asem\u0103n\u0103tor, \u00ee\u021bi propun un exerci\u021biu de coaching pe care \u00eel practic cu clientele mele:<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d85fc66 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d85fc66\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Dup\u0103 toaleta de sear\u0103, \u00eenainte s\u0103 te \u00eembraci \u00een lenjeria de noapte \u0219i s\u0103 faci orice altceva, du-te \u00een fa\u021ba oglinzii. Prive\u0219te-te. Respir\u0103 relaxat. Priveste-te de parc\u0103 patrunzi \u00een interiorul t\u0103u, cu ochii min\u021bii \u0219i po\u021bi vedea, pu\u021bin c\u00e2te pu\u021bin, ce este acolo. \u00centreab\u0103-te: \u201dce parte din mine este atras\u0103 de b\u0103rba\u021bi nevindeca\u021bi \u0219i \u00eei face \u0219i pe ei atra\u0219i de mine?\u201d<br \/><br \/>Nu te g\u00e2ndi prea mult \u0219i nu intra \u00een analize. Con\u0219tientizeaz\u0103 acea parte din tine \u0219i d\u0103ruie\u0219te-i iubire \u0219i acceptare. Spune-i, cu bl\u00e2nde\u021be, c\u0103 tu e\u0219ti la c\u00e2rm\u0103 \u0219i tu decizi direc\u021bia de mers \u0219i c\u0103 va fi bine.<\/p><p>Ai \u00eencredere c\u0103 vei fi bine, orice s-ar \u00eent\u00e2mpla.<\/p><p>Apoi, las\u0103 aceast\u0103 \u00eentrebare, undeva pe un raft al min\u021bii tale \u0219i uit\u0103 de ea, \u0219tiind c\u0103&#8230;oric\u00e2nd vei avea nevoie, o vei putea aduce din nou.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-539b163 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"539b163\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h4>Cum s\u0103 evi\u021bi acest tip de b\u0103rba\u021bi<\/h4><ol><li>Cunoa\u0219te-te \u00een profunzime. C\u00e2nd iei decizia s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi explorezi lumea interioar\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi vindeci emo\u021biile, ace\u0219ti b\u0103rba\u021bi nu prea \u00ee\u021bi vor mai ap\u0103rea \u00een cale.\u00a0 C\u00e2nd realizeaz\u0103 c\u0103 nu ai de g\u00e2nd s\u0103 \u00eei repari, modelezi sau salvezi, vor disp\u0103rea rapid din drumul t\u0103u (g\u00e2nde\u0219te-te ca auto-cunoa\u0219terea vine cu aceast\u0103 func\u021bie de self-cleaning \ud83d\ude0a<\/li><li>Nu te ambala \u0219i nu te investi emo\u021bional c\u00e2nd vezi primele semnale de alarm\u0103. \u201dDar \u00eel iubesc deja&#8230;\u201d Foarte bine, iube\u0219te-l, dar f\u0103r\u0103 ata\u0219amente. Fii observatorul propriei rela\u021bii.<\/li><li>Iube\u0219te-te pe tine \u00eent\u00e2i. Salveaz\u0103-te pe tine prima. A nu mai \u00eentre\u021bine pe cineva care are nevoie de energia ta salvatoare este o dovad\u0103 de respect de sine. Vrei s\u0103 fii respectat\u0103? \u00cencepe cu tine!<\/li><\/ol><p>\u00a0<\/p><p>Programul meu de mentoring rela\u021bional <a href=\"https:\/\/www.corinaimbisi.com\/en\/arise-relatii-divine\/\">ARISE<\/a> te va ajuta cu r\u0103spunsurile de care ai nevoie:<br \/><br \/>-\u00eenve\u021bi cum s\u0103 setezi limite s\u0103n\u0103toase \u00een rela\u021bionarea cu b\u0103rba\u021bii \u0219i cum s\u0103 nu mai faci compromisuri, pentru nimeni \u0219i nimic \u00een lume.<\/p><p>-\u00eenve\u021bi cum s\u0103 comunici eficient \u0219i din pur\u0103 feminitate, pentru a evita scenarii care provoac\u0103 suferin\u021b\u0103.<\/p><p>-\u00eenve\u021bi cum s\u0103 folose\u0219ti fiecare experien\u021b\u0103 de p\u00e2n\u0103 acum spre a fi mai aproape de rela\u021bia pe care o meri\u021bi (nu pe care crezi c\u0103 o meri\u021bi).<\/p><p>Pune cap\u0103t tiparelor care te fac s\u0103 repe\u021bi aceea\u0219i poveste trist\u0103 \u0219i devino autoarea celei mai tari pove\u0219ti de iubire din via\u021ba ta!<\/p><p>Cu tot dragul,<\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p>                <div class=\"ml-form-embed\"\n                     data-account=\"3857537:c3a4t0g5h5\"\n                     data-form=\"5842462:d2d0s2\">\n                <\/div>\n            <\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>De cele mai multe ori, ajungi s\u0103 te \u00eendr\u0103goste\u0219ti \u0219i chiar s\u0103 te c\u0103s\u0103tore\u0219ti cu un b\u0103rbat care te face s\u0103 suferi, adic\u0103 cu un b\u0103rbat nevindecat emo\u021bional. \u00cen acest articol, \u00ee\u021bi ar\u0103t cum s\u0103 te fere\u0219ti de un b\u0103rbat l\u00e2ng\u0103 care sim\u021bi c\u0103 iubirea e grea. D\u0103 play la video \u0219i afl\u0103 ce este de f\u0103cut c\u00e2nd so\u021bul t\u0103u este un astfel de b\u0103rbat. \u00cenc\u0103 din perioada \u00eent\u00e2lnirilor, ne intersect\u0103m cu b\u0103rba\u021bi care abia au ie\u0219it din rela\u021bii cu inimile fr\u00e2nte, care au fost tr\u0103da\u021bi, care duc cu ei un bagaj emo\u021bional de suferin\u021b\u0103, gelozie \u0219i ne\u00eencredere. Unii sunt \u00een depresie, al\u021bii pur \u0219i simplu au probleme emo\u021bionale nerezolvate. Eu \u00eei numesc b\u0103rba\u021bi nevindeca\u021bi emo\u021bional. Cine este b\u0103rbatul care te face s\u0103 suferi \u0219i cum \u00eel depistezi? Am cliente la coaching care \u00ee\u0219i petrec ani de zile \u00eent\u0103lnindu-se \u0219i av\u00e2nd rela\u021bii cu b\u0103rba\u021bi cu astfel de probleme. Dac\u0103 \u0219i \u021bie \u021bi s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat s\u0103 te \u00eendr\u0103goste\u0219ti de cineva abia ie\u0219it dintr-o rela\u021bie zbuciumat\u0103&#8230; Dac\u0103 \u0219i tu ai zis \u201d\u0219i ce dac\u0103 are probleme, o s\u0103 \u00eel ajut eu!\u201d&#8230; Dac\u0103 \u0219i tu ai trecut de la un b\u0103rbat gelos, la altul depresiv, apoi la altul indisponibil afectiv&#8230; Este un tipar pe care, probabil, nu \u00eel recuno\u0219ti de la \u00eenceput, dar exist\u0103 \u0219i te va face s\u0103 alegi mereu acela\u0219i tip de parteneri, p\u00e2n\u0103 c\u00e2nd vei avea curajul s\u0103 prive\u0219ti unde trebuie: \u00een interiorul t\u0103u. Interiorul t\u0103u nevindecat va atrage \u00eentotdeauna parteneri nevindeca\u021bi. Este foarte u\u0219or s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi dai seama care sunt ace\u0219ti b\u0103rba\u021bi, \u00eenc\u0103 de la primele \u00eent\u00e2lniri. Problema este c\u0103, de bun\u0103 voie \u0219i nesilit\u0103 de nimeni, alegi s\u0103 treci cu vederea toate semnalele de alarm\u0103, pentru c\u0103 interiorul t\u0103u deja a stabilit o conexiune cu cineva care s\u0103 \u00eel oglindeasc\u0103. \u0218i nimic altceva nu mai conteaz\u0103. De la primele \u00eent\u00e2lniri, poveste\u0219te despre fosta, despre rela\u021bia traumatizant\u0103 care tocmai s-a \u00eencheiat \u0219i cat de mult \u00ee\u0219i dore\u0219te s\u0103 g\u0103seasc\u0103 o femeie bun\u0103. Te compar\u0103 pe tine \u0219i pe celelalte femei cu fosta. Te compar\u0103 cu mama lui. Este gelos. Nu are \u00eencredere \u00een tine, nici \u00een prieteni, fiecare este suspect. Nu este atent la nevoile tale emo\u021bionale \u0219i nu este interesat s\u0103 \u021bi le \u00eemplineasc\u0103. Este depresiv \u0219i aduce \u201ddepresia\u201d ca scuz\u0103 pentru indisponibilitatea lui emo\u021bional\u0103. Depresia survine mereu c\u00e2nd este cu tine, dar niciodat\u0103 c\u00e2nd iese cu prietenii. Nu poate men\u021bine un job stabil pe termen lung (tr\u0103ie\u0219te din afaceri mici \u0219i dubioase. De c\u00e2te ori vrei s\u0103 exprimi ce sim\u021bi, \u021bi-o \u00eentoarce cu ce simte el, c\u00e2t de afectat este \u0219i c\u00e2te probleme are. Copil\u0103re\u0219te: are preocup\u0103ri \u0219i anturaj mai degrab\u0103 potrivite pentru adolescen\u021b\u0103, nu pentru un om matur. Altcineva este de vin\u0103 pentru nereu\u0219itele lui: fostele false, maic\u0103-sa posesiv\u0103, \u0219eful exigent, colegii tr\u0103d\u0103tori, tu c\u0103 nu \u00eel \u00een\u021belegi. \u00cen preajma lui, nu sim\u021bi bucuria iubirii, ci mai degrab\u0103 sim\u021bi c\u0103 iubirea este a naibii de grea. Ar trebui sau nu s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eent\u00e2lnesc cu b\u0103rba\u021bi nevindeca\u021bi emo\u021bional? \u021aine minte un lucru: un b\u0103rbat \u00ee\u021bi va oferi doar ce e\u0219ti preg\u0103tit\u0103 s\u0103 accep\u021bi. Dac\u0103 de la bun \u00eenceput, \u00eei ar\u0103\u021bi c\u0103 e\u0219ti dispus\u0103 s\u0103 treci cu vederea \u0219i c\u0103 tolerezi, c\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi sacrifici stima de sine, el se va comporta pe m\u0103sura a ceea ce \u00eei transmi\u021bi. Teama de a r\u0103m\u00e2ne singur\u0103, teama de conflict, teama de a fi p\u0103r\u0103sit\u0103 NU ar trebui s\u0103 \u00eencline balan\u021ba \u00eenspre orice b\u0103rbat \u00ee\u021bi d\u0103 aten\u021bie. Tu MERI\u021aI aten\u021bie oricum. Faptul c\u0103 cineva se poart\u0103 frumos \u0219i este atent cu tine \u2013 nu c\u00e2\u0219tig\u0103 puncte, ci face ce se cuvine s\u0103 fac\u0103 pentru o femeie ca tine. Care este cea mai frecvent\u0103 problem\u0103 a unui b\u0103rbat care te face s\u0103 suferi? Ne\u00eencrederea. \u00cen oameni, \u00een femei, \u00een el \u00eensu\u0219i. B\u0103rbatul, care \u00ee\u021bi poveste\u0219te prin c\u00e2te a trecut el \u0219i c\u00e2t de mult i s-a gre\u0219it, \u00ee\u021bi va spune la un moment dat \u0219i c\u0103 nu este preg\u0103tit pentru angajament. Dac\u0103 intri pe acest teren \u0219i vrei s\u0103 continui cu un b\u0103rbat nevindecat, ai dou\u0103 variante: -ori el va sim\u021bi nevoia permanent de reasigur\u0103ri \u0219i consolid\u0103ri din partea ta; -ori tu vei sim\u021bi nevoia permanent s\u0103 \u00eei oferi reasigur\u0103ri \u0219i s\u0103 \u00eei faci pe plac. Ori ambele. \u00cen cel mai r\u0103u scenariu. \u00cen fiecare zi, primesc \u00eentreb\u0103ri de la femei din toat\u0103 \u021bara, despre \u201dce s\u0103 fac s\u0103 \u00eel fac s\u0103 \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 c\u0103 eu \u00eel iubesc \u0219i c\u0103 \u00eei voi fi al\u0103turi no matter what \u0219i c\u0103 eu nu \u00eel voi r\u0103ni niciodat\u0103?!\u201d Crezi c\u0103 aceste doamne \u00eemi adreseaz\u0103 aceste \u00eentreb\u0103ri din simpl\u0103 curiozitate? Sau c\u0103 au prea mult timp liber? Aceste femei tr\u0103iesc drama alegerii unui b\u0103rbat nevindecat, iar acum \u00eencearc\u0103 din r\u0103sputeri s\u0103 salveze ceva ce nu a fost prea solid niciodat\u0103. De ce sunt atras\u0103 de b\u0103rba\u021bi nevindeca\u021bi emo\u021bional? Prime\u0219ti ce crezi c\u0103 meri\u021bi. De fapt, prime\u0219ti ce a\u0219tep\u021bi s\u0103 prime\u0219ti. Nu este nevoie s\u0103 ajungi la psiholog ca s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi c\u0103 r\u0103nile tale interioare vor alege persoana care s\u0103 le oglindeasc\u0103 nu te vor l\u0103sa s\u0103 te sim\u021bi atras\u0103 de un b\u0103rbat bun \u0219i s\u0103n\u0103tos emo\u021bional. Dac\u0103 tu ai convingerea c\u0103 a-\u021bi deschide inima \u0219i a fi vulnerabil\u0103 \u00een fa\u021ba unui b\u0103rbat \u00ee\u021bi poate aduce durere, atunci fii sigur\u0103 c\u0103 asta vei primi de la partener. Hai s\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi spun ceva. \u00cen primul r\u00e2nd, nu ai cum s\u0103 reasiguri la nesf\u00e2r\u0219it pe cineva care are probleme de \u00eencredere. Te vei epuiza \u0219i slei de puteri \u0219i nu te vei bucura de iubire, a\u0219a cum ar trebui s\u0103 fie. \u00cen al doilea r\u00e2nd, nu poti garanta nim\u0103nui c\u0103 nu \u00eel vei r\u0103ni. Nu e\u0219ti maica Tereza. \u0218i nici nu \u00ee\u021bi propui s\u0103 fii salvatoarea nim\u0103nui. Femeia salvatoare din tine este cea care alege \u0219i este atras\u0103 de b\u0103rba\u021bi nevindeca\u021bi, b\u0103rba\u021bi care te fac s\u0103 suferi ulterior. Este limpede de ce. Este acea parte din tine care retr\u0103ie\u0219te un eveniment sau o traum\u0103 din trecut, \u00een mod repetat, \u0219i nu simte c\u0103 iube\u0219te dac\u0103 nu salveaz\u0103 \u0219i \u00eengrije\u0219te pe cineva. Chiar \u0219i eu am trecut prin asta, acum mul\u021bi<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":7523,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[13],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4022","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relatii"],"blocksy_meta":{"styles_descriptor":{"styles":{"desktop":"","tablet":"","mobile":""},"google_fonts":[],"version":8}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.corinaimbisi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4022","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.corinaimbisi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.corinaimbisi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.corinaimbisi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.corinaimbisi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4022"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.corinaimbisi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4022\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.corinaimbisi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/7523"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.corinaimbisi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4022"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.corinaimbisi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4022"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.corinaimbisi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4022"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}